3 Reasons You Don't Hold Boundaries
Mar 24, 2023
3 Reasons You Can't Hold A Line
A few weeks ago, I led the Parenting Revolution workshop, and I noticed a few common themes in the questions parents shared, and here’s one of them:
Reticence to follow through on rules with consequences.
The parents who asked me how to get better at follow-through could see clearly that their children needed limits and that they were struggling to hold those limits. Why?
If we know that this is what our kids need, why is it so hard to give it to them?
In my years coaching parents, I have noticed that reticence to consequence boils down to a few root causes. See if you can identify yourself in one or more of these:
- Fear of fallout - The backlash after a consequence is so awful!
- Worry about the relationship - Will this damage our connection forever?
- A belief that it’s a fail - Consequences mean I’m screwing up, or my kid is, or both.
These are all untrue stories that sabotage our chance for great parenting.
The truth is that consequences are THE MAGIC that helps kids learn, so by avoiding them, we’re only robbing our kids of the chance to grow and do better. We’re postponing and withholding that magic from them.
This is why doing the work to change these stories is SO worth it. That change doesn’t happen overnight and rarely happens without help, which is where I come in.
Working with me, my clients learn to see consequences as a WIN, as a gift, as an act of love and generosity. This is a game-changer, of course! If we learn to love and celebrate the moments we give kids consequences, we’ll happily do it any chance we get. AND we’ll do it with peace and love. Why be upset when it’s normal and nothing to regret?
If you’re ready to add this magic to your family, I’m ready to help you make it happen. Set up a Discovery Call today so I can hear exactly what you are dealing with, give you real, down-to-earth feedback, and start you on a journey that will change your life.
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