Three Reasons You Don't Hold Boundaries
Jan 07, 2025
Three Reasons You Don't Hold Boundaries - A while back, I led a parenting workshop and noticed a common theme in parents' questions: a reticence to follow through on rules with consequences.
All the parents could clearly see that their children needed limits, yet they struggled to enforce them. If we know this is what our kids need, why is it so hard to give it to them?
Why We Don't Hold Boundaries
In my years coaching parents, I have noticed that reticence to consequence boils down to a few root causes. See if you can identify yourself in one or more of these:
- Fear of fallout - The backlash after a consequence can be so awful!
- Worry about the relationship - Will this damage our connection forever?
- A belief that it's a fail - If my kid needs a consequence, I'm screwing up, or my kid is, or both.
These are all untrue stories that sabotage our chance for great parenting. The truth is that consequences are THE MAGIC that help kids learn, so by avoiding them, we're only robbing kids of what they need to grow. We're postponing and withholding that magic from them.
Changing Our Habits
Knowing this doesn't suddenly make us overcome our avoidance, but it does help us start to change our sabotaging stories. That's where I come in. Working with me, my clients learn to see consequences as a win, a gift, and an act of love and generosity.
This is a game-changer. If we learn to love and celebrate giving kids consequences, we'll happily do it any chance we get. And we'll do it with peace and love. Why be upset when it's normal and nothing to regret?
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