The Consistency Kids Need Is Not What You Think
Dec 31, 2024
How many times have you heard it?
Kids need Consistency.
What leads to good behavior? Consistency.
The key to positive parent-child relationships? Consistency.
What’s wrong when kids are out of control? Lack of (you guessed it) consistency.
Consistently Consistent
With all that consistency talk, it makes sense to worry about outside things that make our kids’ lives consistent. And, of course, consistency questions come up a lot in my group program:
- What if my partner and I don’t parent the same?
- What if I am separated, and my child lives in two VERY different homes?
- What if my babysitter/nanny/mother-in-law does things the opposite of me?
In a recent group call, one mom worried about the inconsistency between her and her ex’s houses.
“Consistency is so important for my son, but now he won’t get it, and I can't change that.”
Relationship-based Parenting
Here’s where relationship-based parenting is a game changer - instead of looking at an inconsistent world spinning around us and our kids, we focus on what is entirely in our control: our relationship with our kids.
I asked her: “What does consistency mean regarding your relationship with your child?”
I watched her face relax as she said, “It means I can give him what he needs by being consistent in how I show up with him. That actually feels easy in a weird way!”
What if consistency simply means reliability within ourselves and our relationship? Meaning what we say, regulating our emotions, following through, being a sure thing to our kids instead of a moving target - not only is this more than enough - it is magic.
Here’s where I come in
Ready to learn more? It’s my job to help you become that source of consistency for your child, to be the best parent you can and to create the relationship you want.
Ready to learn more?
Set up a Discovery Call and share your story and your goals. I’ll walk you through how I can help and exactly what it looks like to work with me, and together, we will create your roadmap to consistency and stellar parenting.
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